You must have come across many people who want to please others at any cost. Our society is built in such a way that constant comparison with others is the way of life. One is always aspiring for the things which his or her friends or neighbour possesses. People will go to any lengths to buy something better that their peers and will feel very good about it.
If the person is well off and can afford it, then it's no problem. But even the not so better offs are also in this mad race to out-smart their peers in the number of material possessions which they have. And to achieve them they may even beg, borrow or steal. Being better off is anybody's dream, but following unfair or self inflicting practices to achieve that is certainly wrong. It may cause more harm than otherwise.
One may buy an exquisite car and be the entire neighbourhood's envy, but if it has been bought on an exorbitant loan or EMI, then one is sure to lose one's sleep. See, the proposition of being the neighbour's envy has caused mental agony to the person, which may even lead to health issues. If you look at grave cases then such dangerous agendas may even take the form of negative tendencies like hatred and jealously. I may even introduce the feeling of animosity or the tendency of upmanship amongst peers. In the extreme cases it may even result in crimes when one starts showing off in a particular way which is not at all appreciated by the other person.
Contentment is the key to be away from such materialistic evils. Be content with what you have and don't get swayed by what your friend or relatives are doing or buying. You can always plan well in advance if you are thinking about buying a house or a car, but the call must purely be taken on one's need and not by the peer pressure from your neighbours. Keep a small part of your saving aside for a rainy day, and if enough gets saved then go for it and get what you aspired for. You may even take a small loan for it, but be doubly sure that you would be able to pay it off comfortably. And most importantly, never show off to your friends and neighbours about your new possession. Just be happy about it and share your experience of how you saved for it and ultimately bought it.
I bet that such constructive way of showing a new possession to your peers will make them feel happy and will give a new found enthusiasm in them that they can even do what you have done. This will never give a negative feeling in them and you would have easily made a negative situation positive for him or her. If everybody were to do a similar thing, then I am sure that many people will be able to achieve what they have always wanted to have - and yes, sans the negative feelings of hatred, jealously and animosity. The society would surely be more calmer and full of constructive minded and positive people to live in.
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