You must surely have gone through a stage in life where you would have come across a problem - who doesn't have problems in life, some have little and manageable ones while some have big and frequent ones. Being in that problem stage you must surely have come across people giving you all sorts of advise - same general ones while some very specific ones to overcome them. Some may have come from your elders - parents and relatives while some from your close ones - friends or colleagues. Some may have been given in the passing while some might have sat down with you and shared the details in great depth.
You must have felt better on listening to some of those logical and sound advices while angry at some not so logical ones. Even if you are a loner and don't have many people around you or are not in touch in many people, advises are always around the corner. Just log on to the Internet and you have a number of advises to any possible problem under the sun in various forums or chat groups. The bottomline is that you will have umpteen number of advises or solutions right in front of you to just pick and choose and whisk away the problem once and for all.
But, having said that if all that were true, why are people unable to come over their griefs or problems quickly. The plain reason for the same is that whatever works for one person may not necessarily work for the other. Every problem is unique in itself with the parameters always differing. In short, not two problems are identical - there is some or the other difference in terms of the actual problem or the ingredients of the problem (by ingredients here I mean the nature or the characters or the surrounding around which the problem has arisen).
What also adds to the confusion is that the advise given out by friends and relatives might have not been experienced first hand and hence the solutions might also have been hearsay or heard of or read in some magazine or online forums. So, the question arises what exactly is to be done with so many solutions available but still the problem doesn't seem to go away.
The situation which comes to mind here is of the stock market where two people have contrasting views on a particular trade. The very existence of the stock market is dependent on two people having stark contrasting views. If everybody were to have the same views then the stock markets would soon run out of business (and mind it - if you were to check out the volume of trades daily on any popular stock exchange around the world - the numbers are mind boggling).
So, we know for sure that human mind is very complex and people tend to look at things in quite divergent ways. One may think about peaceful ways to counter the problem while other may take an extreme approach. The advise we have around us should always be thought about thoroughly - in your present context - and then narrowed down to the best possible and feasible one. Blindly following any advise without proper thought might make you land up in more soup than which you originally were in.
So, a calm and calculated mind is required to go through all the advises and filter it down to one or two sound ones. Then, it is necessary to discuss it thoroughly with all the stakeholders so that you may get some more inputs or red flags which you may have earlier ignored. Think it out and after detailed discussion go for it with full conviction - it may or may not work out but you surely will have the peace of mind at the end of the day that you have given it your best shot. Remember what works for one may not necessarily work for you, after all you and only yourself are responsible for the steps taken towards your problem's resolution. You are your own best guide!!!
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